The journey of Mommyhood is an adventure all in itself, but my adventure is starting a new endeavor today. Today begins the new chapter in our lives with Joseph starting school in the evenings. I have so many emotions going through me all at one time. I am happy and excited that he has made the decision to further his education and what opportunities that it will open in the future with his job, but I would not be honest if I did not say I’m nervous, scared and a bit overwhelmed with the fact that this means I will basically be a married single mom during the week. I am truly thankful to have to family support that we have my parents and his parents that will be able to help me out some. This is not going to be just an adjustment on me, but a huge adjustment on the kids. I know that with the God on our side we will make it through this.
This week with Joseph starting school is not going to be a typical week because of a cruise to the Bahamas that has been booked since the beginning of this year. So not only does this mommy have the emotions with the new going to school adventure, but has the many emotions of being away from the kiddos. I am excited to get away for almost a week and to celebrate our 6th wedding anniversary in the Bahamas, but I am also having anxiety of being away from the kids in a way I have never been before. Taylor will turn five in less than two weeks and the furthest that I have been away from them was a five-hour car ride away. This trip is different, I will be on a boat in the Atlantic, I can’t get in a car and come home if something happens. I know that they will be fine and have a great time because they will be with their MawMaw & DaDa, but I am still a mommy with the mommy anxiety.
I know that it is important that Joseph and I get this time away. With so many changes coming with him starting school that we need this time together. The only way we can take care of our children, is to make sure we take care of ourselves and our marriage too. So here’s to the new adventure and more mommy moments! Stay Tuned!
When being out of flour leads to talking to your four-year-old about praying. We never know what God is going to use as an instrument for teaching about him. That is exactly what happened Friday. I had told Taylor that we would make some chocolate chip cookies that he and his sister could take to have at their MawMaw and DaDa’s house for the weekend. This mommy was doing good, I had the butter sitting out to get to room temp while I prepared the kids pancakes and sausage for breakfast. After breakfast I went to get the remaining ingredients for the cookies and that is when I realized that we had every ingredient except the flour. At that moment I knew that the trip to the store was a must and let’s face it……… all us Mommies know that a quick trip to the grocery store is never just a quick trip when kiddos are in tow.
I think we were out the door in record time, I think partly because it looked like it was going to start pouring rain at any moment. So we are loaded up in the car and to Walmart we head. On the way to this really quick trip to Walmart, if there is such a thing as a quick trip to Walmart…….anyways this mommy starts going over the expectations at Walmart. Listening Ears, we are only getting the few things on the list, we will not be walking out with any toys. Then this mommy starts talking God and asking please let the rain hold off till at least until we get home or let it rain while we are in the store but stop let it stop before we leave to get back in the car. Then all the sudden I hear Taylor in a sweet little voice saying “Jesus, please don’t let it rain!” My first thought was they do listen to me ha ha, but I knew in that moment this was the perfect opportunity to talk about how God always answers our prayers according to his will. That sometimes God’s answers are not always how we want them or think they should be answered but that his way is always perfect. We just have to simple ask God for his will to be done. God hears our prayers no matter how big or how small that they may be.
Well God heard our prayers and he answered them, the rain held off! He even answered this Mommy’s prayers and the Walmart trip went great. There were moments of asking for things which is fine but I am just thankful that the dreaded answer “No” did not trigger complete full blown tantrums……this time!!! The rain even held off on the way home from the store. On the way home we continued our discussion on prayers because Taylor says “Mom, look it didn’t rain!” Yes, Taylor God answered our prayers about the rain and God will always answer our prayers but it will not always be exactly how we want them to be answered. Sometimes God’s answer will make no sense to us and we will not understand why and that is okay. God’s way is always right, perfect and for his glory. We need to give God thanks in all circumstances.
Yes, we always hear that children share all kinds of germs and sickness when they are in group settings, but there is something positive to be said about children being in a group setting. Our daughter Emme started speech therapy one day a week about a month ago. The therapist comes to our house for Emme’s sessions. Now, I know you are wondering how the therapist coming to your house relates to children being in a group setting. Well this is what I have observed and learned from Emme in the past month. Her good days of speech therapy were on days when she had been in a group setting of children her age at church while I attended a women’s bible study class. Her really great days of speech like the one she had today was being in the group setting at church and then not having a nap before her therapy session at 1:45…….yes NO NAP!!!!!!! Emme’s days where she was the least cooperative with the speech sessions is when she and I came straight home after dropping her brother off at school and she goes down for a nap before speech. Even with working with her at home on her goals for her speech sessions, she still is less inclined to participate when she has been home with just me and has had a nap.
I can see the difference with her and Taylor, when Taylor was her age. Taylor was in a classroom setting from six weeks of age until three years old, until I started staying home with him. He was only out of the classroom setting for about nine months. He now attends a Mother’s Day Out program three days a week. I could see where he needed to be back in that type of environment that he knew and was a comfort to him. Emersyn was only in a classroom setting from 8 weeks of age to 9 months of age when I started staying home with her. I can see where he is more independent from being in a classroom setting for most of his life, where as Emersyn is independent because of having a older brother to look up to but is also is more attached and always wants to be with Mommy. Today during her therapy session, this mommy had happy tears in her eyes in seeing the excitement in Emme’s eyes when she was either repeating the word or making the beginning sound of the word. It was in that moment that it really hit me with how big of an impact a group setting with children her age has on her and how beneficial it is to her, that even before the therapy session she was in the living room saying “duck, duck, and goose” and falling down when she said goose. Now you have to realize she has never said this before or anything remotely close to this. I asked her, “Emme did you play duck, duck, goose in class today?” to which she shook her head yes. I just sat there in amazement.
Every child is different and every situation is different. Most children would not have a successful session without having a nap before speech. As a parent, you have to see what works best for you and your child.